Six Traits of Feel-Good Leaders

Are Feel Good Leaders Born?

Some would say so, but I think that great leaders can be nurtured for success. How would you describe a Feel Good leader? I’d say that she would have purpose, self-confidence, fearlessness and determination. You could also say that many people (who are not necessarily leaders) have purpose, self-confidence and determination, but I believe, most importantly that feel good leaders have Emotional Intelligence – this is their defining characteristic. There are a few definitions of Emotional Intelligence but I love the way the Oxford Dictionary defines it as “the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.”

Crucially, you must have Emotional Intelligence as a leader, if you can make others Feel Good, you can achieve outstanding results. Let’s have a look at their 6 traits:

 

Trait #1: Respect

Everyone feels that being respected in the workplace is very important, regardless of your title. Leaders feel this way more so than ever, especially in a diverse workplace. You can identify Emotionally Intelligent leaders as they continually show respect toward all their employees. They also exercise self-respect. You’ll notice this by the way they take pride and have confidence in their abilities. It reflects in the attitudes of people they manage. Great leaders tend not to disrespect their employees when they make mistakes. They understand that getting the best out of people requires everyone to be treated the same. Perhaps be more aware of how you show respect and see if changing your approach works for you.

 

Trait #2: Confidence

Here’s the deal: Employees look to their leaders for ways to respond when issues arise. Whether big or small, when a crisis hits, great leaders tend to stay calm and not overreact. They exude confidence when making decisions and don’t second guess their choices. When great leaders are confident in their decisions, this rubs off on the people they lead and reassures their fears. I find that being able to inspire people brings such a great feeling. It makes you and your employees feel good. In our Leadership Burst programme, one of our goals is to teach practical, purposeful and measurable leadership strategies that will give you the confidence to develop your own people and organisation. Having confidence will help you achieve your goals with energy, determination and drive!

 

Trait #3: Compassion

Leaders who possess Emotional Intelligence have compassion, empathy and are aware of the emotions of others – it’s a very admirable quality. By showing compassion, you’ll discover that people are more attracted to you for being genuinely interested in the wellbeing of others. It demonstrates a culture of respect and consideration. Having compassion is an expression of self-realisation, that life is more valuable than our work success. It also improves our wellbeing and vitality, which is one of the core Feel Good Leadership models.

 

Trait #4: Communication 

Great leaders constantly share their vision with their employees so that everyone is on the same page. Having compassion and being confident is not enough if you can’t effectively communicate your vision. Often, Emotionally Intelligent leaders have mastered the skill of effective communication. Furthermore, their clear and concise communication techniques inspire and motivate. All employees feel that they better understand expectations and it builds confidence and belief in their leader. Focus on improving your communication skills. This can develop help your Emotional Intelligence.

 

Trait #5: Courage 

Traditionally, leaders are encouraged to focus on being analytical in the workplace. It doesn’t help to be overanalytical, though, as it can come across as being cold and calculating. Winston Churchill once said: “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” I think he meant that for any failure, we should show courage by getting up, dusting ourselves off and trying again. Leaders who show that courage and passion connect with people emotionally and come across as being warm, friendly and relatable people.

 

Trait #6: Self-Awareness

Leaders that are self-aware recognise their strengths and weaknesses, which is vital. They can effectively manage their own emotions and thoughts, support, and build up employees. I love to promote a positive, dynamic and open work culture – you’re able to build positive relationships and have a better collaborative team spirit. It will also lead to less conflict in the workplace, and it grows your employee’s confidence – making them Feel Good about themselves too.

 

Developing Emotional Intelligence 

To summarise: Great leaders are extremely aware of their leadership style and how they influence others. They can identify and understand their own emotions and use those emotions to empower others. They have courage and heart, can effectively communicate with their teams, and have compassion and respect towards everyone. Great leaders are also confident and feel good about what they do.

I hope that I’ve inspired you to try to incorporate some of these ideas to develop your Emotional Intelligence. Please take a look at my Leadership Burst coaching programme for more practical ideas, and see what my clients really think about the effectiveness of my coaching programmes.